"Morale and attitude are the fundamental ingredients to success." — Bud Wilkinson.
The Thief called, Excuse:
Morale, I guess, is the easy one to recognize, but attitude could be a bit evasive. Or, am I the only one who feels so? It is so effortless to miss what attitude is if and when you have an external locus of control. For, you think you have an excuse for every little thing.
Why is this not done? Someone asked. And, you have all the reasons in the world, but your own very self. Isn't that rather convenient? You are poor because... You don't have a job because... You don't give your tithe because... You are not married because... You are not diligent because... And the list goes on.
Isn't it rather convenient to blame your misfortune on others? Late last year, a lady blamed me for the lack of growth in her business. Right here on Facebook, in response to one of my postings, she wrote my wife and myself did not support her business.
I simply ignored her at first, but a dear friend asked that I show some concern. So, I asked a mutual friend what her business was all about. You won't believe what it is. It was a multi-level marketing scheme. That is what she called a business and was here telling the whole world I was not supporting.
Religious Thieves:
Wonders surely will never end. And that goes back to the keyword attitude. The false premise that others are responsible for your predicament. Unfortunately, the pseudo-spiritual cum religious people don't help either.
They coin several fake words, clauses, and phrases to save their own faces but keep the people ever in bondage. One of the more popular ones is this phantom idea of a destiny helper. I was just wondering about the chapters and verses, reference backings these empty heads coin these from.
Their friend in the Holy Books counted 38 years in the same predicament, waiting for a phantom destiny helper. Heaven had to deliver him to show us an example of the stupidity of trusting in the arm of flesh. Yet people more than 2000 years after are still reinventing the same old mistake.
Free Agency is No Excuse for Stupidity:
God surely has children. Well, He took the risk of giving us free agency. He always knew we can use it one way or the other, but he took the chance. Why? He believed in us to do right. He gave us a chance to mature, to grow, and develop.
He hoped and wished we can learn from other people's failures and successes. Unfortunately, not all of us do. As William Cowper rightly puts it, “To follow foolish precedents, and wink, with both our eyes, is easier than to think.” That is why a lot of lazy people follow it.
These are either lazy of hand, head, or heart. They seek positions without a heart to perform the required duties nor to shoulder the associated responsibilities. They are only after the accolades and societal recognitions. Such are short term in thinking. Sons and daughters of perdition, they are.
I trust you are not like these. I know better of you because you are reading this. The only road to success is that of taking responsibility. God has given you all that you need for your success. If there is anything you don't have, then you don't need it, at least not now.
If you stay true and optimally utilize what is presently in your hands, that which you do not presently have will be granted. You are responsible for your own success. Let no half-drunk pastor, minister or imam deceive you, otherwise. You have all it takes to make it, in this life, right where you presently are.
You just need to start applying yourself and be response-able.
This is all to your success.
St. Akin the Great.
Your Friendly Neighbor.
© 2021 Akin Akinbodunse
© 2021 Akin Akinbodunse
A dear sister, on one of my WhatsApp groups, where I relayed this same message, shared the below:
ReplyDelete"With regards to blaming others for our predicaments. There have been cases of spiritual manipulation which is much in these parts. Mothers-in-law against their daughters-in-law, etc. I have case studies."
My response was:
DeleteNo spiritual manipulation can work unless the victim leaves an open door. Will be willing to listen to the case studies.
Her response was:
DeleteWell I know of a Christian home, where the mother-in-law supported her son's misbehavior and presently the man and wife are separated and the man is living with another woman. This separated woman is close. Many factors may be responsible but we can't say she left a gap.
Two. Another family, where the mother seems to control all her sons. They only do what she says. One of the daughters-in-law complained to moi. She is fed up because all the sons are attached to their mother's apron.
My response is as below:
DeleteCase #1: Well I know of a Christian home, where the mother in law supported her son's misbehavior and presently the man and wife are separated and the man is living with another woman. This separated woman is close. Many factors may be responsible but we can't say she left a gap.
Deciphering:
You call it a Christian Home; hence, you have already set forth the parameters for judgement. Agreed?
Son’s misbehavior negates your assertion in calling it a Christian Home. By using the word “misbehavior” you are in essence telling us, not in many words, “Christ is not King” in this home. That can only be imply biblical norms are being brought to bear in the lifestyles of the home. These has nothing to do with the mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law is a mere excuse. The true reason for breakage in the home is the foundation was not right.
Agreed?
Case #2: Another family, where the mother seems to control all her sons. They only do what she says. One of the daughters-in-law complained to moi. She is fed up because all the sons are attached to their mother's apron.
Deciphering:
This is clearly the result of parental abuse. The subject mother-in-law is a victim, just as much as her boys and her daughters-in-law. They are all, individually and collectively, lawful captives, people insecure in themselves and their reflection in the mirror, controlled by their cravings.
Any doubters?