Stress is what happens when goals and values are out of alignment. It is resting one's happiness on the wrong foundation, or on the wrong wall. The lack of congruency is what produces stress. You have to be clear on what your values are. Your values have a direct bearing on your beliefs. They reveal who you are at your very core, a picture of how you see the world. It is a representation of what equilibrium looks like for you.
Our beliefs and values are not necessarily always correct, nor optimum, but they need to be respected, for they represent the journey of our life to date, the well-worn neural pathways in our brain. They are the habits we have formed in a bid to make our walk efficient and effective. They are the messaging decoded for our subconscious mind to feed on. It represents our unconscious biases.
You can imagine anything that attempts to take us off this well worn path will be a Stressor and or Drainer. While anything that encourages us along this pathway is a Destressor and or Filler. This does not make the thing in itself good or bad, but simply aligned or misaligned with who we are. So, each person needs to check the goals they are pursuing and confirm it aligns with their values and beliefs.
Where there is a misalignment quality questions needs to be asked? What is the origin of the belief and value? Are they still valid? Are they helping us in the path of life and success? If they are not, then they are due for a change. You are due for a paradigm shift. Otherwise, the goal needs to be tested. Where is it coming from? Is it one imposed by another, or self desired? If self desired, there is an obvious internal conflict that must be resolved.
You cannot desire that which you hate. You cannot hate that which you desire. One is amiss. So, you need to test your desire and tastebud. One of them needs fixing.
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