Your Marriage is Worth Fighting For

Love is not a feeling. It is a commitment. People don’t grow out of love, as is the popular cultural saying. That is a misnomer. It is the way we try to explain what we do not understand. Ask most people separating, and they still love one another, they just find they are not gelling. One or both parties had taken the relationship for granted. One or both parties have gone from the place of giving to the place of expecting. One or both parties is (are) expecting what the other either knows nothing about, or is alien to their personality.

Love your spouse more than you love your career, hobbies and money. That other stuff can't love you back. (Dave Willis)

Irrespective of the dynamics, none is beyond redemption, for as long as the parties are ready and willing to work at it. Where we fail from our responsibility is where you hear the two words, “irreconcilable difference.” That is rather cheap, don’t you think? Those are words concocted in the pit of hell. Love is worth fighting for.

Patience is the companion of wisdom. (Saint Augustine)

Your marriage is worth fighting for. Get to grow. Get to know more about your partner. Don’t force-fit your partner into a mold that is foreign to their personality. Love them for who they are, while trusting God to make them better, even as He works in your own life also. Seek for healing from your past. Don’t bring the hurts into your marriage. Allow God redeem your pains. You are loved. You are special. You are unique.

But marriage goes in waves. You've got to be patient. People bail and give up on their marriages way too early. They just don't put the work and the effort into it. You've got to suck up your ego a lot of times, because that can be a big downfall. (Anna Benson)

Build the marriage you want. Speak the right words over your marriage. Sow the seeds for the harvest you desire. Don’t be a victim of the society. Don’t be a victim of the environment. Be a change agent. Raise the bar. Raise the standard. Be the person your partner wants to love. Provoke your partner to go the extra mile in love. You can. Yes you can.

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